Often when death is the inevitable and impending outcome of a health diagnosis, doctors are reluctant to discuss alternatives to treatment, feeding into a culture of denial that can result in expensive, ineffective, and unnecessary over treatment that may or may not extend life but almost always damages the quality of life. Here, a seasoned doctor and researcher looks at the ways in which we are accustomed to treating illness at all costs, even at the expense of the quality of a patient’s life. He considers our culture of denial, the medical profession’s role in over treating patients and end of life care, and the patient’s options and role in these decisions. The goal is to help patients and families make informed decisions that may help the seriously ill live better with their illnesses.
This profoundly empowering book will help people make informed decisions about their lives and medical care, especially those who have a life-threatening or life-changing illness themselves or have a family member living with one. Incorporating specific questions for patients to ask their doctors and discuss with their families, the book provides an analysis of various forces that influence our decision-making. The book also examines the professional, psychological, economic, and social pressures that influence physicians treating seriously ill patients, including those that lead doctors to recommend treatments that may be futile. The book concludes with resources that seriously ill patients and their families can call upon to give them support and assist with the logistical, emotional, and spiritual challenges of end-of-life care.
“Accepting death and making the time before death peaceful and comforting is one of the best gifts we can give to ourselves, our family, and our loved ones,” says oncologist and medical ethicist Mangalik as he takes on a big and often avoided topic in his debut book. His goal is to empower patients to avoid unnecessary medical treatments and to “prepare you and your family for you to have a comfortable, peaceful death.” He educates readers on all aspects of the end of life, including accepting the inevitability of death, understanding why doctors over-treat—one reason is their “refusal to accept failure”; another is “competitiveness and ambition”—and resisting the urge to demand unrealistic treatments. There is a great deal of helpful information in these pages, on topics such as interpreting statistics and end-of-life directives. Among many good points the author makes is that patients may “go for a treatment based on the best possible scenario” without understanding that “improvement of heart function by x percent” might not actually make the patient feel better. The book’s writing tends toward the verbose and repetitive, but its intent couldn’t be worthier. Readers will find much of value if they persevere."--Publishers Weekly
"Mangalik, who spent 50 years as an oncologist, radiates compassion in this common-sense guide to planning a 'good death.' People can take charge of how they want to die, ideally free of pain and surrounded by family and friends. 'Why do we not prepare for our own death?' Mangalik asks. Doctors tend to overdo treatment for many reasons, including financial incentives and fear of lawsuits, but patients don’t need to just say yes. He notes that patients can legally refuse feeding tubes and intravenous fluids. This thought-provoking book is meant for the healthy as well as those who are ill. 'The best time to ask yourself what you do, and don’t, want is when you are in good health,' Mangalik advises. He discloses that one big reason for his advocacy for honesty and openness is memories of how his own family stayed mum when his mother died in her thirties of an acute gallbladder infection. Mangalik provides invaluable information everyone can use to be prepared to face the inevitability of death and celebrate each life."--Booklist